What is the #1 Character Trait You Need to Train in
What's the #1 character trait you need to train in, as a parent? What does God command children to do, in the Bible?
#1 Character Trait to Train in: Obedience
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."
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Is your child's disobedience and bad attitude ruining the peace of your home and consequently your relationship with them is really strained?
Admittedly, I found it hard to love my children at times. I had to ask God to give me love for that small child and I felt really guilty about it. Doesn't a mother naturally love her children?
Becoming angry with your children more and more, well, maybe not angry, but…impatient, will definitely wear on your positive emotions towards your child.
Training children in first-time obedience
is one of the most loving things a
parent can do.
Are you at your wit's end as to how to get them to do what they're told, and feeling like a failure as a parent? Do you constantly feel like you need to get away from home to relax and breathe, and so you can be a nice person again. Mama, there's hope.
What is the Definition of the character trait you need to train in
Do you know the definition of the character trait you need to train in? Do you know what you're expecting? The answer is not difficult, but it will require a change in your thinking, and repentance and discipline on your part. It will work best, if you and your husband are on the same page. Obedience isn't obedience unless it's immediate, complete and cheerful. Maybe you've heard the phrase, "first-time obedience"?
"Obedience isn't obedience unless it's immediate, complete, and cheerful."
Discipline Attitudes, Not Only Behavior
The reason we get angry is because we don’t take action at the first moment our child disobeys or delays to obey. We let the bad attitude go on until it becomes an action, and then we discipline. We need to deal with the attitude. And right away. But, before you clamp down, pray and communicate the change to your children.
Steps to Change Your Parenting Behavior
1. Ask your children for forgiveness for not training their character the way you should.
2. Tell them that from now on you are going to expect them to obey you immediately, completely and cheerfully.
I can hear you saying, “Yeah, right.” Mama, if you have the attitude that it’s not possible for your children to obey you, you are not thinking Biblically, and you are doomed for failure.
God expects His children to obey Him. You must train your children as early as possible to obey you in preparation to obey Him. It is the most loving thing you can do and will greatly help them in their Christian life.
The #1 Character Trait You Need to Train In: Training Plan
Obedience that is immediate, complete and cheerful is the number one character trait you need to train in, because God commands this, in His Word.
You, as a parent, must train in first-time obedience, because God commands children to obey their parents, but He promises blessing for it! In the next posts, I'll be sharing how we succeeded in this in our family and home.
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